Let Them Have It...
Let them..
I get it. I mean I really get it. You can't always "RECLAIM YOUR TIME" They charge at you the stronger you verbalize your faith. They attempt to press your buttons. Sidenote- They can only press buttons if you expose your buttons.
Some people do it intentionally, others are not aware of how they make you feel. It could be their sinful nature to press. It could be their ignorance of who you are or how they make you feel. It could possibly be your sensitivity of past hurts that expose what makes you upset. It could be your insensitivity to the difference of other people and how they operate.
WHY ARE YOU MAD?!!!! Why does "that thing" make you so mad? Why do "those" people make you so mad?
The question is do you want peace in your life?
Scenarios:
A lady moves in front of you in the grocery line. Breathe, “Excuse me, I was next line.” She will say one of 2 things…
"Oh, I’m sorry …go ahead" ...so humble
My stuff was there I just went to get an item....so prideful
You then have the choice to--- Let Them Have It. (humbly or peaceful)
Don’t go back in forth. Why waste your time? Is a space in line worth you being upset for the rest of the day. Do you want peace?
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Family members call you only when they want something.$$$$ If you call them, they are too busy. If you don’t call, they are mad when you do call. .....Even though they never call you.
Don’t let it disturb your peace.
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As soon as you get home from work you see the kitchen dirty, living room dirty, and the kids room dirty. Breathe.
Do NOT come in the house yelling. Resentment will build up from the husband/wife and the kids.
SOLUTION: Come in. SAY "I’m home." Stretch out your arms and receive your hugs. Say, "I love you."
They know you’ve been at work all day. They know you pay for the AC that cools the house. You do not have to keep saying it.
Breathe.
Walk the house. Take note of what needs to be done. Create a list. Write down who is responsible for what. Have them write it down and tape it to their door.
Breathe.
Now when they have neglected to complete their duties go to that list, look at the list and ask them (In your most calm, unbothered voice) "What have you completed on the list?" This creates independence and saves relationships.
Please PLEASE PLEASE do not yell about work/chores on Sundays or before school/work. They will then associate meanness, nagging, and drama with Sundays and Mornings and begin to hate it.
Let Them Have It.
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At work they are going to Happy Hour, they don’t ask you because of who you say you are (A Christian/Non Drinker) . Let Them Have It. They press those little buttons too just to see if you will go off one day. Will he/she get out of character? Stay the course?
Those co-workers/supervisors will bring negativity and gossip to you just to see how you respond. When you don’t respond the way they expect they might turn the conversation toward you. Breathe. You still have purpose.
Let Them Have It.
IF!!! God said it then it is so. Just because it gets difficult doesn't mean God didn't ordain it. Continue to confirm His promises through prayer. God doesn't change. You asked God for guidance, stop trying to lead. You have to persevere for the sake of your purpose being fulfilled. When we operate out of emotion it becomes difficult to keep our eyes on the prize. Push peace in your life and watch God work it out for your good.
Matthew 5:9
9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
Prayer
Holy and Righteous Father,
You have been so kind to me. You continue to restore me and give me strength to endure. At times I get in the flesh and I have the tendency to disregard peace. I stir up strife or I initiate it. Forgive me for not being a peacemaker. Lord, give me the strength to endure words, actions, or attitudes that make me want to respond outside of your will. Thank you for wisdom that allows me to be proactive in being a peacemaker. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Shalom ya’ll
