There is no fear in love

I tried to call you and you didn't call back. I figured maybe this is a bad time to call...So I will text. I text you and you didn't text me back. I checked my phone to make sure the text went through. It said delivered, but maybe you are busy. I will wait...2 minutes later I decide to text again. Then I get mad because when we are together you are always on your phone. Surely, you can take the time to respond now.

Then I start thinking about the last text I sent. Was it inappropriate? Did I take it too far? Did I sound too thirsty? Jerk!! I am going to break up with you...Wait Wait...We are not in a relationship. I am still single. I will send a break up text anyway. 10 minutes after the initial text...So I sent you a few text messages and I called you. I GUESS you are toooooooo busy to return the communication. Well I deserve better than this. You can lose my number. 2 weeks later ( Never received a response) I text again, "How you doin? You ok? " There is a response and the cycle continues.

The upper scenario might not be anything you are familiar with. It might be more crucial for you. Like actually given someone the "Best" of you and after giving "it" to them they cease to communicate. Geesh. You might already be living with this person, paying the bills and continue to beg them to love you. You might just innocently share your time with this person in hope they will see your worth, but to no avail. Alone! Without! Sad, Mad, OK, Satisfied, Happy, Sad, Mad, OK..Etc.

You start to think, maybe I can settle with a piece of something. Maybe my standards are "too high". At least I will get a text sometime. A call sometime. A hug sometime. You are excited for your friend who seemingly has a GREAT relationship, but you secretly wonder if you will ever have a love to call your own. NO SHARING!!! You pray, then wait, and wait, then pray some more, then cry and pray and then you are 30.... 40.....50 and STILL single.

One day, while minding your business, you see this person. They initiate conversation. You dream up your future 20 years down the road in the first paragraph of talking. You are elated that this could be....REAL. The perfect character. The perfect personality. FEAR!!!! You continue to the converse for weeks. FEAR!!!!! Your feelings for this person seem to move faster than time itself. FEAR!!!! You consider the "L" word. LOVE- Could I love this person? Do they love me? This is everything I prayed for.

You reach out to your family and friends to confirm your feelings. They only ignite the FEAR!!!! that exists. What if this person gets tired of me? Will the texts stop? Will the calls stop? What if they are like all the others, a waste of time? What if they were just being nice. FEAR... WHAT ABOUT GOD?

1 John 4:18NIV

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

God is Perfect Love and He can drive out fear. Don't attempt to drive out the fear of love with your own words. It will not work.

Speak truth to your life. Walk uprightly in your life. If you put God first it will work. Don't skip corners. You can't please flesh and then expect God to bless. STOP SLEEPING WITH EVERYONE hoping to find a mate.

Let it start off right. Pray together, read the word together, talk to each other, get to know each other. If you are saved know this: If the other person is not willing to pray, read, talk, and get to know..IT will be short lived. But hey!! If you just want the right now do your thing. YET!!! If you want it to last, be patient and trust God with a loving attitude.

The bible says in Psalm 84:11 For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord will give grace and glory; no good thing will He withhold from them that walk uprightly.

Prayer:

Father, I thank you for love. I thank you for providing me with the capacity to receive amazing love when it arrived. I thank that you have taken the weight of my paSt so thaT I can bE free to not only receive love, but give it. Forgive me for imparting my thoughts on how I should receive the gift you wanted to give me. I am grateful that you are not moved by immature emotion. Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. I am glad that the Plan You Have for me is greater than I could have imagined. I thank you, Lord, for providing me with protection as I journEy into this place called love. I accept your agenda for my future mate. Prepare my mate, even now, to recognize this good gift. I will strive to put you first so that which you have giveN me will not turn into an idol. Thank you for your kindness. Thank you for your LOVE. In Jesus' name, Amen.